Archive for April, 2009

Waiting for the doorbell to ring had exhausted her. When it finally rang her heart flashed in shock. Frozen in place, it rang one more time, this time a bit more insistently. Like walking through concrete, she made her way to the door. “Could it be?” Trembling she turned the knob and pulled the door forward. Standing there was the delivery boy and in his hand, a single red rose.

To Be Chosen

Being chosen is at the heart of many of our deepest wishes in love. A close second is to be appreciated. Appreciated for our efforts to live a stand up life. Wouldn’t it be nice If we had opportunities to feel this way regularly?

Whether you are in a relationship or not, you can have personal loving interactions with the world around you and feel appreciated in profoundly moving ways. Everything starts with how you think about the issues you are dealing with in this moment.

When you learn to focus your mind on your desired result (being a soul mate)instead of the problem itself (waiting for a soul mate), your perceptions will shift quickly and at times dramatically.

As Louise Hay says, a belief is just a thought you think over and over and over and a thought can be changed.

Aren’t you immediately curious about what in the world those yeses are all about?

Amazing how powerful that little word is.  Especially when you say it to yourself.  What?

How many times do you decline inner nudges to act in ways that would SURELY RAISE YOUR VIBRATION to a more blissful state?  While searching for love, your path will be lined with lovely signs that you are on the right track. Will you notice them or not?

There is evidence every single day that you are getting closer to love and when your vibration is uplifted regularly, you will see that evidence.  Love appears like magic.  When love appears more regularly, finding a soul mate connection will be a natural unfolding.

What are some of the inner nudges you need to answer with an emphatic YES?

Here are some that my Inner Being sends me, maybe you can relate:

How about a walk?

Ready for a glass of water?

Why not call that friend you haven’t seen for a couple of months.

Go outside for a breath of fresh air.

Turn off the computer for awhile.

Take yourself out to lunch in a new neighborhood.

Take a yoga class.

There are countless things that will raise your vibration and when you are humming along in well-being, the Law of Attraction has lots of energy to work with,  you will most assuredly run into more loving people and opportunities than you an imagine!

So let’s here it from everyone:  YES!  YES!  YES!

“….and then Lori, that bitch, sat on his lap and wrapped her skanky arms around him and he did absolutely nothing…nothing! He just sat there like the ass that he is and did nothing.”

I heard every word. I was three tables over in Starbucks and I couldn’t help but overhear. I glanced over and I was surprised to see the person I was listening to was nearing 50. I couldn’t help but wonder if she realized how she was coming across.

If you are single and there are no prospects in sight, you are in the perfect position to take on a personal project. Ladies, we must learn to control what is coming out of our mouths. It is the perfect homework for control freaks every where, the one thing you CAN control is your speech!

Starting tomorrow, begin each day with this intention at the forefront of your mind: I intend to write my complaints down in detail instead of speaking them out loud. There are two steps here, one, acknowledge the things that are bugging you and two, write them down.

Don’t get trapped in the artificial positivity that goes along with Law of Attraction thinking. Let yourself be bugged. Write it down and then if you are a drama diva like me, create a burning ceremony and do it up right! Even if you just throw it away, at least it is coming up out of you and on to something neutral like a blank piece of paper. I like to use different colors of pens and sometimes I write conversationally as if an inner buddy is answering back.

Now Lori might actually be a lady of the evening but even if she is, do we need to talk about it? What if the words we speak radiate from us as surely as radio waves? Personally, that is exactly what I think happens. Wouldn’t it behoove us to choose carefully what we are broadcasting?

So, let’s get together here, ladies, and make some serious decisions. Yes, I am sure that people have been low down and no good including ex-boyfriends, ex-friends and ex-bosses, but retelling the story again and again and again doesn’t serve you. As long as you are in between guys, why not practice cutting complaining out of your day to day routine.

A pastor in the midwest started an anti-complaining campaign that has had a major impact. His suggestion is to put a rubber bracelet on one wrist and then switch wrists every time you catch yourself complaining. The goal is to wear the bracelet on the same wrist for thirty days.

Great idea! I love the plan. I would just add one element. Complain once a day on paper. Let yourself be ticked off at the inconveniences that frustrate you, the inefficiency that annoys you, the disrespect that angers you and the carelessness that infuriates you. What ever it is, write it out, every word.

Your opportunities for great dates and new connections will be dramatically impacted by this change in your routine. Most feel a change in a week. You can expect to be treated differently in subtle ways and you will attract small things like coupons from area restaurants, invitations, movie passes, things like that.

Can fine dining be far behind? Getting used to noticing the small but certain signs that our luck is changing is a necessary step. You want to be with someone permanently. You want someone around to fix a few things and to snuggle with on the couch. He wants that too and he is looking for you. Whining and complaining, no matter how deserving the offending party has been, is simply unattractive to a lot of decent guys and potential soul mates.

Are you up for the challenge? When you are sipping a great red wine at your favorite fine dining establishment instead of whining at Starbucks to your girlfriends, you will be glad you did!

How Not To Think

Get Rid Of The Old, Embrace The New and Create Real Love

If you are a What Not To Wear Fan, you will love this workshop. Just like the popular TV show, we are going to makeover your inner view of yourself and what you believe is possible for your love life. In this 2 hour workshop you will:

• Go through your current “Thought Closet” and see which thoughts are serving you. You give me permission to toss the out dated and no longer attractive thoughts.

• Visit the Mind Mannequin and learn the Rules guiding your new set of thoughts the design team feels would show you off at your best.

• Try on and Practice new patterns of self talk

• Address how you appear to others in public and create a plan for getting you out of the living room and out in the world.

• The grand reveal: See how you look in the inner 360 mirror and create an action plan for how to expand your new inner look.

Who is the workshop for? Anyone who:

• Believes in the Law of Attraction yet struggles to manifest love
• Experiences disappointment in love and relationships
• Is looking for a soul mate
• Has found a soul mate and wants to keep things steamy
• Wants to attract more positive people and events to their life.

Workshop Details:

Date: April 26, 2009
Time: 1:00 pm to 3:00 p.m.
Location: Ceramic Café (Yes, there will be arts and crafts and refreshments, too)
(619) 466-4800
5500 Grossmont Center Dr
La Mesa, CA 91942
(In the Grossmont Center Mall)

Cost: $47

Seating is extremely limited.

Book Your Spot Today!
Register Here:

“In other words, do you know how many men would flock to you…?

…if they knew that you would allow them to be as they are and you would not hold them responsible for your happiness.” Abraham Hicks

Since I began reading the Abraham Hicks books several years ago, I have seen the Law Of Attraction in action many times. Like most, I started with parking spots and green lights, heck it was easy to visualize those things and I had my husband believing in the “Parking Angel” too!

It has been fun for me to watch my life change as I took responsibility for what I was thinking and feeling. I have had a remarkable experience creating a new life by moving to a new community and a new career through attracting people, events and circumstances in the most surprising and delightful way.

But by far the most exciting thing the Law Of Attraction is bringing to me everyday is love, love and more love! I am 58 and it has taken many years and lots of coaching and yes, even a bit of therapy for me to finally realize that the key to a man’s heart is my NOT needing him to make me happy.

Changing my mind about letting a man have responsibility for my happiness has been a long slow process…think of the Queen Mary doing a U turn. But ladies, it has been the best thing that has ever happened to me! The more I find out about what makes me happy and the more time I spend thinking about those things and how happy they make me feel, the more love I am finding…everywhere!

Every now and then, Abraham says something that I don’t immediately understand. They win me over eventually with their humor and consistency. Feeling loved and appreciated is the biggest prize of all and I couldn’t be more grateful for the simplicity of the message.

What you think about expands. That is pretty simple, isn’t it? Which of these thoughts feel better to you?

“I will never meet anyone. I don’t want to go to bars anymore to meet people. I hate blind dates. I should have married the third guy ago. Why did I break up with him anyway. I hate eating alone. I don’t have anyone to go to the jazz concert with. I know I will be happy, once I meet my soul mate. I will never be happy single.”

OR

“I love knowing that I am getting better and better everyday. I know I am not an expert yet, but I want to feel happy and I want to notice love wherever I can. I may not know where he is coming from. but I know he is on his way. I wonder how we will meet? I love knowing that when we meet it will feel amazing. I also know that feeling amazing is an inside job and I am learning every day to find joy that fills my chest with warmth. I love love and I want to experience more and more of it all the time.”

Which paragraph feels better to you? Try to feel how constricting the first one feels and how expansive the second one is. It is possible to begin to turn your own ocean liner around, no matter how much emotional debris you are lugging around with you!

The Law of Attraction is amazing. Simple and remarkably consistent, it can not bring what does not resonate. Missing love in your life? The smartest thing you can do is face that and make a decision to change how YOU think and feel about love and not hope that men will adjust to you!

When a man senses that you are the kind of woman who knows SHE is in charge of her own moods, emotions and ultimate happiness….he will be fascinated and drawn into your orbit. Every time. It is law.